Finance, Fun, Family Goals: Part 1

I picked up Rich Bitch by Nicole Lapar today and in the second chapter she tells me to write down realistic goals for the next 1, 3, 5, 7, and 10 years. So here it goes.

Date: July 5th, 2015

Finance Finance 
Year 1: Get a job in the Engineering field. Be registered for Engineer in Training (EIT).
Year 3: To have worked on an international airport project.
Year 5: Become a Professional Engineer (P.Eng). Be able to start sending money to my family.
Year 7: Pay off Student Loans
Year 10: Become a senior engineer, or a project manager. Help mum pay off mortgage.

Awesome Fun
Year 1: Have membership at a sick gym/personal trainer. Be able to not have to worry about the price of food and drinks when out with friends.
Year 3: $300/month budget on my wardrobe. Moved out into my own condo. Take trips/year. Have my first basic car.
Year 5: Down payment on my first property.
Year 7: Switch basic car for a nicer car.
Year 10: –

Year 1: Going on dates in the city.
Year 3: Be in a steady relationship.
Year 5: –
Year 7: Consider marriage.
Year 10: Consider having kids.

My list will be updated as I please through out the year, and I will hopefully meet my goals.



Back on Track

For a while now, I have lost track of aspiration for my future self. I thought I had a pretty good idea; finish school, apply for jobs, hope that I get one, and start off with a minimum wage engineering salary. Anyone with half a brain can come up with this plan, but what was missing was my drive for specific things I want out of my life in the next few years.

TravelI am three weeks into my vacation in Hong Kong now, half way through till I return back to Canada, to my regular life. I have learned so much of myself in this short period time than I have than I have in the last few months. My life felt pretty stale this past school year, and this trip was exactly what I needed to renew myself.

Being in a city where I come in contact with as much travellers as there are locals, it opened my eyes to how easy it is for someone to pick up their lives and go to a completely foreign country to either fulfill their vacation time, or to root themselves there to start a new life as an expat and work. I’m so curious when talking to visible minorities here in Hong Kong about the process of placing themselves in a country where it is so culturally, geographically, and linguistically different. I wonder if I would be able to do as they do, and flourish and be fully as happy as I would in the comfort of my home country. It has also got me thinking about where I would be willing to apply for jobs this upcoming year for after I graduate. I’ve always set my eyes on finding any job I can find in Toronto; my plan was that I want to spend my first year out of school in Toronto with or without an engineering job. I know how naive this plan sounds, wanting to move to such an expensive city with no plan only to fulfill my wannabe Torontonian dream. After a year in there, and if I still can’t find a job in the engineering I would look else where, my only destination choices being Vancouver or Hong Kong. I am finally realizing I am too closed minded by limiting myself to these two destination JUST because I’ve been to them both, enjoyed them and feel that I can easily get adapted. I’m going to be in my early 20’s when I graduate, and this is the prime time to take advantage of my youth and independence to work abroad in a strange city. I never felt I was someone that would be grounded in one location for the rest of my life, I use to have such a desire to travel but somehow that got lost in the stress of the time and money I thought I didn’t have.

BrainsAnother contribution to my newly found drive is seeing and meeting so many young professionals. Every single person wants to be successful while they’re still young. That is the time where one is the most beautiful, energetic, and feels like the world is their oyster. Other than the fact that I realized that I myself is attracted to professionals; someone that has their shit together and is supporting their happy life, I myself want to be that as well. My parents always told me to find a rich and intelligent husband, this comment has never irked me till recently. Why would I want to rely my happiness on my partner’s wealth? I want to be able to provide the same happiness myself. I’m constantly finding people I admire, and by doing so I myself want to acquire attributes of these people in myself. I want so much in my life by the time I reach 30, be it a nice comfortable condo, to being well travelled, being able to hold up my own, or just be able to not have to worry about price tags. Until now, I didn’t realize how hard I’m going to have to work in my last year of my engineering degree starting this Fall and after just to be any where close to my dreams for the next few years. I’m finally at a point in my schooling where I’m on track, where I don’t have to worry about failing and staying back another year (all not without working my butt off this past year) I’m so close that my Convocation and Iron Ring is all I can see right now.

I’ve been so nervous about finishing school and the uncertainty of my career that I’ve been putting off really thinking about where I want to be when I’m all done. I feel as though I was too passive, where I’m just going to accept whatever life was going to pass down to me. This trip so far has been a positive impact on me, and I’m interested to see what else will come up by the end of my trip.


2014 in a Nutshell

With 2014 wrapping up, here is a summary of highlights/lowlights of this year.

BeautyAfter over a year of trying to figure out how to do my eyebrows; ranging from cheap shadows to inadequate brow pencils,  I finally took the plunge and got the Anastasia Dipbrow Pomade. This happened in the summer and it’s safe to say brow game has changed forever. It took a good month or two to master the brow technique, but I did it.

I started to blowout my hair when ever I style it, and no longer straighten my hair. I have been straightening and abusing my hair for the last 9 years, and I finally realized that I have to take care of it. Yes I’m still applying heat to my hair, but it’s not to the extent of when I’m using a straightener. Blowdrying my hair with a round brush has resulted in smoother, softer hair, which is something I’ve been loving.

Speaking of hair, I went an ombre blonde. And yes, I have been having more fun since.

MenThis was the year of Tinder dates. All the dates I’ve been on this year, was from Tinder. All the guys I’ve been involved with this year, was from Tinder. I went on a rock climbing date with a guy, and I might have crushed his balls while being a bad top rope partner. I also went on a dog walking date with a guy because he said he had a dog. I was more interested in his dogs. I went on 2 dates with this guy that I thought was cute, but never went past making out; he was a good kisser. Between the months of March-September, I was involved with this grade A horn dog. It wasn’t till now looking back that I realized he was an asshole. I suspect that I let me neediness of men’s attention cloud my judgement of the guy, it also clouded my nose to his B.O. That latter point is embarrassing to admit. Towards the end of hanging with him, this guy had the atrocity to talk about his girl he is seeing, was on his phone the whole time we were hanging out (we were at the mall), and then tried to get lucky with me later on. Sorry, but I have a little more self respect than that.

FinanceI had my first independent job that required me to be on my own ass to get stuff done. As mentioned in my previous post, this was the first time I had to work by myself, five days a week. It also allowed me to have a pretty sick summer with the cashflow, and the opportunity to travel. Though I don’t see myself doing it again, it was a great experience.

After my summer job ended, I realized that I have gotten used to the life style of making and spending money. So I started looking for a part time job for during the school year and landed myself a hosting job at Moxie’s. I have always wanted a job at a well known chain. I’ve also been wanting to get a job where I get to have work friends; something where my previous job was limited to. I’m 3 months into the job, and I’ve been really enjoying it. Not super demanding in comparison to my school work, and it’s a fun atmosphere. The only thing I had issues getting used to was having to wear heels to work. It doesn’t hurt me as much anymore. I kind of see it as a blessing in disguise, as it’s training my feet to be able to comfortably wear heels.

BrawnThis was the year I turned my fitness up a notch. I started lifting heavier and hitting personal records like squatting 140lbs, 10 shy from my own weight. I’m slowly seeing my body change. Thought it may not be exactly how I want it to be, I still have a lot to work on in terms of my eating habits and lifestyle.

And with that, here’s an abrupt conclusion and a reminder at how bad of a writer I am.

Till next time,